When married couples go through tough times they do wonder if saving the relationship is worth it. In many cases people look at the day to day struggles with their partner and think that there is no light at the end of the tunnel so they choose to end the relationship.
Often, when they move on to another relationship they find that they hit the same bumps and deal with the same daily frustrations.
This is why it is so important to take the time to examine your marriage (or relationship) and ask yourself tough questions instead of just throwing in the towel.
Deciding whether or not to save a relationship is not easy, but you can make it easier by answering a few questions.
1. Do you love your partner? If you decide that you do not love the other person anymore then there is not really much you can do toward saving your relationship. But, if you do still love them then there is no reason to give up just yet.
2. Is there any abuse in your relationship? If you are a victim or an aggressor of any sort of physical, mental, emotional, or sexual abuse it is probably best to end your relationship. You will need to take some time and deal with those issues before you can truly be a healthy partner to another person.
3. Are the problems you have petty or big issues? Are you constantly annoyed with little things about your partner, like the fact that they are always late or are there harder to resolve issues like differences on moral or religious grounds. Big issues can be overcome, it just takes real dedication and hard work. If the issues are petty you should evaluate how you can overcome them.
4. Are outside factors affecting your relationship? Is the stress of work or extended family matters driving a wedge between your and your beloved. How can you get past that and just focus on one another?
5. Is one of you less committed than the other person? This is a big factor, if you are ready for marriage but your partner is not you might have to think about your goals and decide if you want to stay in the relationship or move on to something more serious. Be sure to understand the difference between not being ready yet and not being ready ever then ask if your relationship is worth waiting it out.