How Has Dating and Starting a Relationship Changed from 10 Years Ago?

The basics of dating have and will most likely always stay the same. Two people meet. One asks the other out on a date. They go on a date and get to know each other. They go on more dates or they go their separate ways and start the process again.

I think the ‘how’ of things have changed. How do we meet? How do we communicate? How do we get to know each other? Technology has changed this for many people. You can find information on almost anyone on the Internet. If you have Facebook, Twitter, Instagram or a blog, your information is out there to be found by anyone. I’m sure many people Google their prospective date to see who they are meeting. There are pros and cons to this. You lose some of the magic of finding it out from them. On the other hand, it might help you dodge a dangerous situation. Either way, things tend to be different today. Here is how:

The Meeting: In earlier years, the only way to meet was face-to-face. Now we can meet online without physically seeing each other.

The Asking Out: Before technology took over the world, the only way to ask someone out was face-to-face or possibly a landline telephone. Now you have all types of social media and texting. I think I prefer the old-fashioned way.

The Date: Dates were simpler and more intimate. There were no phones or computers to interrupt the conversation. Both people could focus on the other. There were no taking selfies or posting food on Instagram or checking Facebook updates. It was just two people having a conversation.

The After: If you wanted to see each other again, you made arrangements before saying goodbye. You met each other again at the agreed upon place and time. Today, we can be in constant communication so we often only make another date by texting.

These are the main things that have changed because of technology. It does not have to make dating more difficult or dangerous. Just stay honest and respectful and you should be fine.

5 Things You Can Do to Prepare for Your First Date and Help You Make a Good First Impression

First dates can be scary and nerve-wrecking and first impressions are important. To help ease the anxiety, we have a few tips for getting ready. It will make you look good, feel comfortable and be prepared. It is difficult to make a good impression when you are uncomfortable and worrying about how you look or how your shoes are hurting you. Get everything in place before your date and you will be ready and confident. Take these steps:

  1. Be Clean and Confident: Take a shower, brush your hair, clip your nails, shave, brush your teeth. This will all make you feel more confident. When we feel clean, we feel good. You will feel like you can take on the world.
  2. Choose Your Outfit: Wear clothes that are appropriate for the date setting, but also comfortable. Wear clothes that are ‘you’ and fit well. Make sure they are clean and modest enough for where you are going. You should feel good in what you are wearing. Trying out a sexy dress that makes you uncomfortable or wearing a pair of heels for the first time, might not be the best idea. They might scratch, pinch or hurt and make you uncomfortable and distracted.

3.Keep Smiling: Smile while getting ready. Smile on the way to the date. Smile as you walk in. Greet your date with a smile. Smiling relaxes you and your date. It calms the nerves.

  1. Prepare Questions: Have a few pre-prepared questions at hand. These questions help to get the conversation started when you are still nervous. When the conversation is flowing, go with it. Try not to force anything or feel like you have to use the questions. They are just there for an emergency. They help to avoid awkward silences.
  2. Be Good to Yourself: Think positive and give yourself a pep talk while getting ready. We often don’t realize that we are putting ourselves down. Be conscious of your thoughts and be good to yourself.

8 Date Ideas That are a Bit Different than the Usual and Will Give You the Opportunity to Bond and Laugh Together

  1. Art gallery: Find an art gallery opening or just visit any gallery that is open. See new things and broaden your minds. Argue about what different pieces of art mean and have a great time.
  2. Picnic in a national park: Pack a picnic basket and visit your nearest park. Most parks have trails for hiking and exploring. Pack all the yummy essentials and a blanket and have a wonderful, peaceful date in the outdoors.
  3. Hide and seek with a modern-day twist: Play hide and seek in a mall. Send your partner clues through texts or by taking pictures in a specific place. The loser has to pay for dinner.
  4. Farmer’s markets: There are always interesting things at a Farmer’s Market. Shopping with your other half will help you get to know each other better. You learn about how the other person spends their money, what they like and how they make decisions. End the day with cooking dinner together with the goodies you bought.
  5. Movie marathon with a theme: Stay in and have a movie night. Choose a decade, genre or series of movies and have a marathon. Remember the popcorn and other movie necessities.
  6. Star-gazing: Get out of town where there are fewer lights. Lie on top of the car and gaze at the stars while talking. This can be a wonderful bonding experience and create a beautiful memory.
  7. Visit a fancy hotel: Get dressed up in fancy clothes and go explore the fanciest open hotel you can find. You don’t have to book a room. Just have a drink or walk in a beautiful garden.
  8. Old school scrapbooking: Have a fun day out and take pictures with a disposal camera. Develop the photos and create a scrapbook of your adventures of the day.